Grief can come in many forms. A death, a collapse of a relationship or even a loss of yourself.
Not many people talk about the different things you can grieve over, or what that looks like in many situations.
Since my nan passed in 2020 I have watched my grandad and mom both grieve for that loss. Admittedly my nan spent a lot of time in pain and being ill so many people saw it as a blessing. However this never helps you to get over it, it can just bring a bit of comfort and justification.
Watching my mom and grandad grieve it has been very different.
But this got me to thinking about how we have all had grief over different things as well as the same. When my mom and dads marriage ended, I know all of us children and my mom and dad experienced grief for that. As us children have become adults we have all discussed how this has effected us and how we felt with that grief.
It takes time to grief; for something or someone. They say that their are 7 steps but I don’t always agree with that being the focus of measuring how well your coping and when the grief will stop. Because I don’t always think that it goes away, ever!
You will still have your moments of passing blame, justifying how the loss has helped or allowed your own future destination to change.
It’s very hard to look past grief; especially if it’s a loss of yourself. I experienced this when I came home from Vietnam. Having my power, positivity and confidence beaten from me it was like having to re build a house from rubble. With no help, cement or even bricks.
It’s a huge loss within ones self but a huge challenge to overcome.
Allowing the right people to help and giving yourself time is the key!
With any loss it’s hard but having people to accept the struggle and even the trauma is a hand that can help.
Sharing with the right people and in a safe space can share the burden and the load of loss.
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