You see all these things on social media about being an adult. I remember one where it was a sticker chart for adults. If you’ve seen it, you’ll know. I do think it is hard growing up and wish there was a rule book sometimes. I remember when I was younger, I always thought by the time I was 25 I would own a house, have children, have a husband and be able to drive. But here I am 24 and not a clue. I am no where near to having any of those and yet most people my age I know have at least one let alone two. Looking at others is always a bad trait though. It’s the curse of social media.
Sometimes I wish ‘I had my life together’, but then what is having your life together? Am I happy that I don’t have children yet? Yes. Am I happy I don’t have a partner let alone a husband yet? Yes. Don’t get me wrong I want those things but what I have learnt over the past few months is that no one has a clue. Children, car, house, partner what do they all mean to have? Life shouldn’t seem like a competition and a step of must have milestones.
Sometimes I’m proud of myself for having a shower. I’m sure I’m not the only one! I’ve watched many videos of people who talk about the adult life and challenges and some of these reassure me. Starting to grow up and stepping into the big world it is scary. Getting a job, remembering to do the laundry, house DIY! There’s some stuff they just don’t teach at school. Call me naive but I learnt the hard way to never rely on pictures. The number of curtains and house accessories that I have brought and been hugely miss led by the picture is ridiculous. Always use a Measuring tape! And don’t rely on pictures.
Another thing I have struggled with is cooking. Even though they do teach you that at school it is the lesson you do switch off and prat about in. When I went to university it was the first-time cooking for myself. For those three years I kept to the same 3 meals (don’t tell mum!). It wasn’t till recently I have started exploring different meals. Well, when I say different meals its more Sunday dinners with different meats and veg. This was a huge step for me and now I feel like it’s something I can brag about.
All little achievements you make especially from the age of 22 to probably the age of 60 you feel a little more grown up. But this is the fun thing! Don’t think of age as a way to judge your level of life achievements or even live your life with stereotypical milestones. Grow as a person and explore, act like a child, burn some toast, loose your phone, forget your keys, buy things by looking at the picture and order random things offline in the middle of the night. All of these things bring stories to laugh about and lessons that are learnt.
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